Comments on: Negotiation with Your Teen? http://www.riverdalemediation.com/2010/03/negotiation-with-your-teen/ peace of mind, don't settle for less. Thu, 05 Jan 2012 01:10:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jay http://www.riverdalemediation.com/2010/03/negotiation-with-your-teen/#comment-155 Jay Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:20:48 +0000 http://www.riverdalemediation.com/?p=1830#comment-155 I enjoyed your posting re: Negotiation with your Teen? I have two boys, and as such, they are often silent and non communicative. It's a good reminder to not take it so personally, and fear it's the end of the relationship with the Mother and/or Father. Good advice: Remain calm and respectful while staying engaged with regard to the issues and daily lessons at hand. They need their space, and will be more open to discussion if they're shown a little space without letting things go. Mother's (re: teen boys) - don't sweat the small stuff. They'll fall down - seem distant - uncaring - make mistakes - stick with them, believe in them, and help your boys thru their teens. They'll be back in their late teens / early 20's in spades. Caring, loving, considerate and well grounded. A hope we can look forward too! Thanks for sharing. Jay I enjoyed your posting re: Negotiation with your Teen?
I have two boys, and as such, they are often silent and non communicative. It’s a good reminder to not take it so personally, and fear it’s the end of the relationship with the Mother and/or Father.

Good advice: Remain calm and respectful while staying engaged with regard to the issues and daily lessons at hand. They need their space, and will be more open to discussion if they’re shown a little space without letting things go.

Mother’s (re: teen boys) – don’t sweat the small stuff. They’ll fall down – seem distant – uncaring – make mistakes – stick with them, believe in them, and help your boys thru their teens. They’ll be back in their late teens / early 20′s in spades. Caring, loving, considerate and well grounded. A hope we can look forward too!

Thanks for sharing.

Jay

]]> By: Hilary Linton http://www.riverdalemediation.com/2010/03/negotiation-with-your-teen/#comment-151 Hilary Linton Sun, 07 Mar 2010 03:08:58 +0000 http://www.riverdalemediation.com/?p=1830#comment-151 That is a great story!! It is so true... and sometimes so hard.... to accept that which you cannot control. Like every time they walk out the door! Yikes. That is a great story!! It is so true… and sometimes so hard…. to accept that which you cannot control. Like every time they walk out the door! Yikes.

]]> By: Claudette Reimer http://www.riverdalemediation.com/2010/03/negotiation-with-your-teen/#comment-149 Claudette Reimer Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:12:46 +0000 http://www.riverdalemediation.com/?p=1830#comment-149 Hi Hilary, I loved your article and fully agree. Teenagers seek to control their environment. As parents if we give them some control through negotiation, they will likely not insist on rebelling to gain full control. I remember this one time when my two oldest kids had done something inappropriate (can't remember what it was) and I was so angry I grounded them from going to an important Friday night dance at the school. They were upset and I felt really badly because I didn't want them to miss this great chance to have fun. When I got home the next day I talked to them about the grounding and told them the punishment may have been too harsh so...we negotiated a different punishment. They got to go to the dance and I got the million leaves raked off my yard before the weekend. I'm not sure how negotiation can be wrong. Anyway...thought I'd share my silly little story! Hi Hilary, I loved your article and fully agree. Teenagers seek to control their environment. As parents if we give them some control through negotiation, they will likely not insist on rebelling to gain full control.

I remember this one time when my two oldest kids had done something inappropriate (can’t remember what it was) and I was so angry I grounded them from going to an important Friday night dance at the school. They were upset and I felt really badly because I didn’t want them to miss this great chance to have fun. When I got home the next day I talked to them about the grounding and told them the punishment may have been too harsh so…we negotiated a different punishment. They got to go to the dance and I got the million leaves raked off my yard before the weekend. I’m not sure how negotiation can be wrong. Anyway…thought I’d share my silly little story!

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