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Comment on Negotiation with Your Teen? by Jay

Jay — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:20:48 +0000

I enjoyed your posting re: Negotiation with your Teen?
I have two boys, and as such, they are often silent and non communicative. It’s a good reminder to not take it so personally, and fear it’s the end of the relationship with the Mother and/or Father.

Good advice: Remain calm and respectful while staying engaged with regard to the issues and daily lessons at hand. They need their space, and will be more open to discussion if they’re shown a little space without letting things go.

Mother’s (re: teen boys) – don’t sweat the small stuff. They’ll fall down – seem distant – uncaring – make mistakes – stick with them, believe in them, and help your boys thru their teens. They’ll be back in their late teens / early 20’s in spades. Caring, loving, considerate and well grounded. A hope we can look forward too!

Thanks for sharing.

Jay

Comment on Negotiate or fight? by Darlene Madott

Darlene Madott — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 15:41:58 +0000

Hilary Linton was mediating years before alternate dispute solutions became fashionable. She combines knowledge and diplomacy with authority — a rare but winning combination when it comes to “getting to closure”. As a family law practitioner always searching for the best process to serve the client, I know that solutions have identities, and the identity of the mediator who can facilitate settlement is critical.

Comment on Negotiation with Your Teen? by Hilary Linton

Hilary Linton — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 03:08:58 +0000

That is a great story!! It is so true… and sometimes so hard…. to accept that which you cannot control. Like every time they walk out the door! Yikes.

Comment on Negotiation with Your Teen? by Claudette Reimer

Claudette Reimer — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:12:46 +0000

Hi Hilary, I loved your article and fully agree. Teenagers seek to control their environment. As parents if we give them some control through negotiation, they will likely not insist on rebelling to gain full control.

I remember this one time when my two oldest kids had done something inappropriate (can’t remember what it was) and I was so angry I grounded them from going to an important Friday night dance at the school. They were upset and I felt really badly because I didn’t want them to miss this great chance to have fun. When I got home the next day I talked to them about the grounding and told them the punishment may have been too harsh so…we negotiated a different punishment. They got to go to the dance and I got the million leaves raked off my yard before the weekend. I’m not sure how negotiation can be wrong. Anyway…thought I’d share my silly little story!

Comment on Mediation, Negotiation, Collaborative Law, Cooperative Law…???? by Hilary Linton

Hilary Linton — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:50:59 +0000

That is neat. I hope you are right! I’d love to hear from more people on the subject. There is such a wealth of personal and professional experiences in this area.

Comment on Mediation, Negotiation, Collaborative Law, Cooperative Law…???? by elizabeth hyde

elizabeth hyde — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:03:28 +0000

Hilary I like the short snippets of a blog. I have done a number of semianrs recently on using blogs, twitter and facebook as business development tools as google will pick them up when you search. I recently referred someone to your site for mediation and I think they found it useful to get a quick overview of what the difference is between the different paths one can take

Comment on Caledonia Dreamin’ by Hilary Linton

Hilary Linton — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:24:24 +0000

Wise words from a wise man! This is such a complex problem with such deep roots; I could not pretend to have the answer but there has to be a better way to look for it.

Comment on Caledonia Dreamin’ by Hilary Linton

Hilary Linton — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 02:19:20 +0000

Chris thanks for taking the time to comment on this important issue. Feel free to send more thoughts!

Comment on Caledonia Dreamin’ by chris

chris — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:32:55 +0000

We need to introduce a piece of legislation that will automatically kick in when protest takes place such as the protest in Caledonia. Might I once again suggest that you take such legislation to parliament asking that the provincial government in conjunction with the Federal government introduce an addendum to the Ipperwash report, (bringing it up to date ,so to speak). Such legislation should layout a automatic community compensation package, both for residents and businesses. I say automatic in that certain protest qualifying standards are necessary for such legislation to kick in. My sense is that Caledonia would more than meet any protest qualifications determined. Clearly, based on how the provinical and Federal governments are acting out this current stalemate, aboriginal protest will continue to take place for decades to come. Having said that we need to pursue community compensation, otherwise there will be more bloodshed. My sense is that both levels of government have taken a “let them bring it to court attitude” before they will pay out. Well let me tell you, should these court cases be decided in favour of the plaintiffs then my sense is the province is going to be inundated with lawsuits. We all know that the OPP “laissez faire” attitude regarding the protest is politically rooted. Having said that, I believe both the class action lawsuit and the Brown-Chartwell suit wil uncover the facts and ofcourse invariably will result in (hopefully) substantial compensation. If that is the case then the voting base will understand that to get any real meaningful government assistance, one must sue. Should this prove to be the case I predict much more litiigation will ensue as many have painfully suffered.

Comment on Caledonia Dreamin’ by Damien Cummings

Damien Cummings — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 06:28:06 +0000

That’s very true.

We’ve all been in situations that get out of hand, where all sides are stubbornly “sticking to their guns”. The original issues become irrelevant and the only things that seem to matter are winning, getting even, and/or saving face.

There’s a big lesson to be learned here: You should always take the time to relax, breathe, and cool off before responding to situations. Leave your ego out of it and just address the matters at hand.

If things get out of hand, if it seems that all hope is lost and that no agreement could ever be reached, just call Hilary: She has a nice big table, comfy chairs and an endless supply of candy, chocolate and refreshments to enjoy!

You and your opponents will quickly learn that it is nearly impossible to curse, swear, or insult eachother when you have your mouth stuffed with candy, cakes & cookies! This gives everyone ample time to sit, to think and then address the real issues. Check your egos at the door, please.